and it shouldn’t offend you either
Time for something good on my blog :3
They all weigh 150lbs.
There is no ‘right’ body type. Weight looks different on different people, and it is ALL OKAY. Don’t compare yourself to other people’s bodies, learn to love the body you’re in NOW and what it can do NOW.
I NEED THIS ON MY BLOG
this is perfection
bolded for excellent advice!
Shameful confession: I have an OkCupid account.
On this dating site they ask you a bunch of questions, one being, “Can overweight people still be sexy?” My answer is, of course, something like “fuck yeah, duh, obvs, of course, always.” But an alarming amount of people answer, “No.”
I ask every guy who contacts me who answered no to this question about his reply. If they’re not a blatant angry fat-hater (I never get why those guys message me in the first place, hello, did you look at my pics?), they typically say something like, “Oh I mean… I guess they can but like I just don’t find them attractive/want to date them/want to have sexy time with them.”
People are totally allowed to have physical preferences regarding who they’re attracted to. As far as I can remember, I have never kissed a blonde in my life. But do I go around saying, “No blonde person can be sexy?” Of course not! Because attraction and beauty are different things. I’m not gonna go into the likely fatphobia lurking behind the reply from the OkCupid guys (using the blonde example: just because I prefer darker haired folks would I turn down a blonde gal or guy who caught my eye? no, not all blonde people look/are the same, why lump them alllllll together?) because that’s a whole other post for a night when I’m less sleepy, but let’s just acknowledge that just because you don’t want to kiss a person does not mean you can deny them a positive adjective they want to self-identify with. Thinking that someone “being sexy” is all about whether or not you want to have sex with them is hugely egocentric. Just like thinking someone can only “be beautiful” if you wish you looked like them. We need to stop policing people who try to love their bodies and telling them they can be “beautiful” but not “pretty” or “great” but not “sexy.” We need to acknowledge that anyone who wants to be seen as sexy is sexy whether or not we want to hop in bed with them.
There may be preference regarding attraction. But there shouldn’t be preference in regards to who you give a basic level of respect & human decency. There shouldn’t be a preference in who gets to call themselves beautiful because you don’t get to decide how people feel about themselves.
"Thinking that someone “being sexy” is all about whether or not you want to have sex with them is hugely egocentric. Just like thinking someone can only “be beautiful” if you wish you looked like them."
YES. Thank you :)
saved that shit. i NEVER want to look like that. EVER.
Stop hating on other people’s bodies as your motivation. It’s mean and unnecessary. If you really want to lose weight & can’t find a better goal than to bully people/make negative comments about their bodies, try some positivity. It’s a hell of a lot nicer.
Hear hear. Shaming yourself and others gets you nowhere, it only creates a negative downward spiral into self-destruction for everyone involved. Positivity is the key; feeling better about yourself by loving yourself, not hating on others.
Your body not matching an impossible standard of beauty does not make you a failure.
So you think female superheroes should be based on female athletes?
There really is no problem with that, if that’s what you actually want. I mean, if you’re drawing a really strong superhero, it makes sense to base her off a really strong real-life athlete. But know that “female athlete” doesn’t always mean thin, doesn’t always mean a tiny, still-within-bounds-of-traditional-female-attractiveness amount of muscle, doesn’t always mean tiny waist. And boobs don’t always “get bigger because they’re pushed outward from muscle gain.” Sometimes the boobs just go away.
If you think female characters should look like athletes, don’t complain when they look like Cheryl Haworth or Dawn Ellerbe, because they are both athletes. But the complaints about female characters who don’t “look” like like athletes very rarely acknowledge this, because it isn’t really the fact that they don’t “look” like athletes that’s the problem. It’s the fact that you don’t want to fuck them.
But for those who really DO want references for different body types of different types of athletes, male and female, here is a really good post where I took the above pictures from, that has TONS more.
yay for displaying different bodies!
This is fantastic.